Thursday, November 20, 2014

Mark Nepo

I love Mark Nepo! I've been reading his book The Book of Awakening; Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have. 

It's a daily read book and for November 20th it's, Commitment and Risk. 

The quote is as follows; The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. Al sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred.  A whole stream of events issues from the decision which no one could have dreamed would have come their way. -W. H. Murray

Mark Nepo is so very poetic. He talks about the irony of taking a risk, and how that is the very thing that "opens us to our fate". I love the line; "If we devote ourselves to the effort to be real, the Universe in all its forms will find us, the way that wind finds leaves and waves find shore.

So on my walk this rainy morning I decided to make a list of all the ways I have found to keep my self on track and though it's not perfect at least I have something to fall back on when I have failed.  I will post what I have so far.  I will keep adding more ways as I think of and implement them.  I hope to have a really great and long list.


The Things I do to Keep me On Track


I read really good books and articles that lift me emotionally and spark my imagination. In a hopeful way

I research ideas for good living, good food and good health.

I seek out like-minded people whenever possible.

I do ART.

I take classes that are fun and interesting.

I walk the dog every morning.

I take vitamins.

I make a conscious connection with myself for unconditional self-love.

I eat only foods for my highest good.

I focus on my limitations being careful not to over load myself.

I say no when necessary.

Anyway, that's what I'm thinking at the moment,

Thursday, November 13, 2014

Free Movie... Origins

This is a great film, it reflects all that I believe.  Give it a try for free and also free a ten day event.

 http://origins.well.org/movie/

Friday, July 11, 2014

Accepting Ourselves Deeply

Here's a really great piece on self love p on the Psychology Today blog.

She offers 50 best quotes on self-love but also expresses how we as a society have evolved emotionally and speaks to the challenges we have faced since the early 1900's.  The quotes have heart and meaning regarding the all important goal of self-love.  All the links still work and are also very interesting.

The 50 quotes include topics such as, Know Thyself, Be True to Yourself, Respect Yourself and Value Yourself just to mention a few. There is also a deeply persuasive exercise to help you develop self-acceptance.

Here's the beginning of Melanie's powerful article just to get you started:

The biggest struggle in life is the struggle to know, embrace, and accept ourselves, with all of our faults and imperfections. Many of us were raised  by parents who were themselves victims - who were not taught to see their own worth, or who were not really seen by their own parents. Our grandparents generation faced massive trauma and upheaval due to the Second World War and the Great Depression. The focus was on survival and minimizing the damage, rather than on love, appreciation and intimacy. Individuals and families today face the challenges of long commutes, longer working hours, and global economic uncertainty. These stresses can beat us down, or make us build walls around ourselves that are so dense that even our dearest friends, partners, spouses and children can't get in. Yet, there is another way.

When we have the courage to let the walls down - to know and embrace ourselves, despite our human failings, we also open the door to connecting in a more caring, empathic, intimate way with the ones we love and with all living beings. Our brains are wired for survival, but also for empathy. We have mirror neurons that fire when we see other people's pain. Let us learn to love ourselves so we can be more open and compassionate to others, and so we can take down the walls that limit who we can be and what we can contribute. The quotes below are intended as inspiration for your inward journey. Become more mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Know your vulnerabilities as well as your strengths and achievements, and learn to love yourself for both. I have included categories that define some different facets of self love, including awareness, acceptance and growth. Following the quotes is an exercise to help you better know and accept yourself.

Please do check out the rest of this great information, if you, like me are on a journey to unconditional self-love.

Peace. Ellie

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Self-Love - The Greatest Love of All

I found this article by Tania Kotsos.

Here's a delicious little tid bit to get you started;

Self love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship - that with yourself. The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation. To love yourself is not just a self-esteem boosting piece of advice. It is the prerequisite to truly loving others. The Golden Rule tells us to "love your neighbor as you love yourself". You are likely to have heard it many times, expressed in different ways, thinking it is about loving others. Look a little closer though, and you will find that at its very center is the command to love yourself.

Please stop over to Mind Your Reality to finish this insightful article.  Also the comments section is very interesting too. 

Peace. Ellie

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Under The Weather

Both myself and my computer have not been feeling well.  I've been to the doctor's office and had one trip to the ER, plus a follow up set for Friday. The computer is going to the shop on Monday and hopefully repaired.  I hope we are both better soon. 

Peace. Ellie

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

The List!

I've been making a daily search on the world wide web and sifting through anything I can find about self-love.  What actions to take, what questions to ask myself, even quotes that are food for thought regarding self-love. Looking everywhere for pearls of wisdom from experts, seers and others just like me.

So, I was gratefully surprised to find in my very own email a post from one of my very favorite artist and blogger, Kathryn Costa, at her  Collage Diva blog.  Her post really fits so well with my current self love journey/search, PLUS I totally love Tiny Buddha as you all know. Visit Kathryn's blog for the list from Tiny Buddha written by Sarah Nean Bruce and to view her delightful art journal page dealing with powerful ideas about love put into words.  I love how Kathryn can artistically express her ideas using paint, paper, images and just the right words....She is truly amazing!

Peace. Ellie

Monday, June 30, 2014

Actions to Self Love

Tiny Buddha is one of my favorite sites founded by Lori Deschene.  I also have her book entitled Tiny Buddha, Simple Wisdom for Life's Hard Questions. Lori collaborated with people all over the world through Twitter to find out how others would answer the really tough question.

The website Tiny Buddha is a storehouse of great articles by lots of great writers (follow the links for more on each) on all sorts of personal issues.  The stories are real and have lots of heart and meaning.

Since I am on a quest to love myself unconditionally I must post from Tiny Buddha! Thought this would be a good one for today.

21 Tips to Release Self-Neglect and Love Yourself in Action


“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh
The most important decision of your life, the one that will affect every other decision you make, is the commitment to love and accept yourself. It directly affects the quality of your relationships, your work, your free time, your faith, and your future.
Why then is this so difficult to do?

Your Family of Origin

I grew up with nine siblings. I had two older brothers, three older sisters, three younger sisters, and a younger brother.
I never fit in. My sisters were tall and thin with beautiful, long, lush hair. By eleven years old, I was short and very curvy. My hair was fine, thin, and wild.
For the most part, my siblings did as they were told. I was outspoken, out-of-control and rebellious.
I wore my sister’s hand-me-down school uniforms. I rolled up the hems on the skirts and popped buttons on the blouses. My look was unkempt.
I was teased and bullied at home and at school. Yet I didn’t go quietly into the night. I fought for my place in my family. To protect myself, I developed a good punch and grew a sharp tongue.
I was 27 years old and married with four children when I became desperate enough to seek out my first therapist. I felt alone, stuck, and unlovable. I was determined to change.
After six months of working through my childhood issues, old thoughts, beliefs, and events, I felt alive again. It was like stripping off several layers of paint from an antique piece of furniture. I found myself restored to my original beauty.

Cultural Influences

We’re taught by society that our worth is found in the idols of our culture—technology, status, youth, sex, power, money, attractiveness, and romantic relationships.
If you base your self worth on the external world, you’ll never be capable of self-love.
Your inner critic will flood you with thoughts of, “I’m not enough, I don’t have enough, and I don’t do enough.”
Feelings of lack are never-ending. Every time a goal is reached or you possess the next big thing, your ego will move the line.

Shift Your Self-Perception

Feeling worthy requires you to see yourself with fresh eyes of self-awareness, , and love. Acceptance and love must come from within.
You don’t have to be different to be worthy. Your worth is in your true nature, a core of love and inner goodness. You are a beautiful light. You are love. We can bury our magnificence, but it’s impossible to destroy.
Loving ourselves isn’t a one time event. It’s an endless, moment by moment ongoing process.
It begins with you, enfolding yourself in your own affection and appreciation.
Read on for steps to discover your worth and enfold yourself in affection and appreciation.
1. Begin your day with love (not technology). Remind yourself of your worthiness before getting out of bed. Breathe in love and breathe out love. Enfold yourself in light. Saturate your being in love.
2. Take time to mediate and journal. Spend time focusing inward daily. Begin with 5 minutes of meditation and 5 minutes of journaling each morning. Gradually increase this time.
3. Talk yourself happy. Use affirmations to train your mind to become more positive. Put a wrist band on your right wrist. When you’re participating in self-abuse of any form, move the band to your left wrist.
4. Get emotionally honest. Let of go of numbing your feelings.Shopping, eating, and drinking are examples of avoiding discomfort, sadness, and pain. Mindfully breathe your way through your feelings and emotions.
5. Expand your interests. Try something new. Learn a language. Go places you’ve never been. Do things you haven’t done before. You have a right to an awesome life.
6. Enjoy life enhancing activities. Find exercise you like. Discover healthy foods that are good for you. Turn off technology for a day and spend time doing things that make you feel alive.
7. Become willing to surrender. Breathe, relax, and let go. You can never see the whole picture. You don’t know what anything is for. Stop fighting against yourself by thinking and desiring people and events in your life should be different. Your plan may be different from your soul’s intentions.
8. Work on personal and spiritual development. Be willing to surrender and grow. Life is a journey. We are here to learn and love on a deeper level. Take penguin steps and life becomes difficult. One step at a time is enough to proceed forward.
9. Own your potential. Love yourself enough to believe in the limitless opportunities available to you. Take action and create a beautiful life for yourself.
10. Be patient with yourself. Let go of urgency and fear. Relax and transform striving into thriving. Trust in yourself, do good work, and the Universe will reward you.
11. Live in appreciation. Train your mind to be grateful. Appreciate your talents, beauty, and brilliance. Love your imperfectly perfect self.
12. Be guided by your intuition. All answers come from within. Look for signs and pay attention to your gut feelings. You’ll hear two inner voices when you need to make a decision. The quiet voice is your higher self; the loud voice is your ego. Always go with the quieter voice.
13. Do what honors and respects you. Don’t participate in activities that bring you down. Don’t allow toxic people in your life. Love everyone, but be discerning on who you allow into your life.
14. Accept uncertainty. Suffering comes from living in the pain of the past or the fear of the future. Put your attention on the present moment and be at peace.
15. Forgive yourself. Learn from your mistakes and go forward. Use this affirmation, “I forgive myself for judging myself for __________ (fill in the blank i.e.: for getting sick, for acting out, for not doing your best.)
16. Discover the power of fun. Self-love requires time to relax, play, and create face-to-face interaction with others. Our fast-paced world creates a goal setting, competitive craziness that doesn’t leave room for play. Dr. Stuart Brow says, “The opposite of play isn’t work, it is depression.”
17. Be real. Speak up and speak out. Allow yourself to be seen, known, and heard. Get comfortable with intimacy (in-to-me-see).
18. Focus on the positive. Go to your heart and dwell on and praise yourself for what you get right in all areas.
19. Become aware of self neglect and rejection. Become conscious of your choices. Ask yourself several times throughout the day, “Does this choice honor me?”
20. Imagine what your life would look like if you believed in your worth. Dedicate your life to loving you. Make it your main event.
21. Seek professional help. Self-rejection and neglect is painful. You deserve to be happy. You have a right to be accepted and loved. If necessary, seek help from a support group, counselor, or coach. It’s the best investment you can make.
Because we are all interconnected, when I love me, I also love you. Together through our love, we can heal ourselves, each other, and the world. Love is our purpose, our true calling. It begins with and within each of us.

Please visit the website and check out Tess Marshall's blog, The Bold Life.
Peace. Ellie

Friday, June 27, 2014

Self Love Trump Card.

I love the saying that Joy is an inside job, but now I hear that Forgiveness is an inside job too!  This is an article from Psychology Today, a little old but timeless none the less and all the links still work.

 

        Your Trump Card: Self-Love

Having a glowing vision of the future helps you tackle the core beliefs about yourself—such as doubts about your own worthiness for success—that have held you back until now. So as you peel back the curtains around your core self, you become ready to tap the source of all change and success—self-love, and forgiveness for past failures.
Self-love doesn't happen by luck or the grace of God. You have to create it. These are among the most important elements of it.
  • Honoring yourself and who you really are. Love is your birthright. As Teilhard de Chardin said, "We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience."
  • Telling the highest truth, which is that we are powerful beings capable of creating joy and success or pain and suffering in our lives. We are not destined to be victims. We have the power to choose, and this power is both the greatest responsibility we have and the greatest opportunity.
  • Honoring who you are becoming. Self-love involves recognizing that you are constantly evolving and growing to become a more powerful and more loving being.
  • Honoring your feelings and responding to those feelings. Remember, feelings are important signals, and even the so-called negative feelings of anger and fear serve the important purpose of alerting us to the obstacles in our life.
  • Recognizing that the universe is literally made of love. "If we will just open ourselves to receive, like flowers opening to the sun, then everything is possible," says Ti Caine, hypnotherapist and life coach based in Sherman Oaks, California.
When things go wrong or goals don't materialize, most people blame their past, their parents, life in general or God. We are even encouraged to do this by friends and family who are well-meaning. We also devote a great deal of energy to settling for what is, without recognizing what we can become.

All the great wisdom traditions speak of the unlimited power we have within us. Both quantum physics and psychology offer proof that our thoughts create our reality. Yet, Caine points out, many people strenuously object to the truth that we create our own reality.
"They argue that it's not loving to tell a sick person they had anything to do with creating their illness," he says. "Yet, by not owning their power when they are sick, they are consigning themselves to a life of being a victim of any virus or circumstance that comes their way. This powerlessness is the source of most depression, and it leads to more illness and problems such as overeating."
He insists it is more honest and even more loving to gently help people recognize the power they have to create their reality, including failures. Once we do that, then we must forgive ourselves for the painful experiences we have previously chosen in our lives. "I don't know all the parts of me that are creating the failed relationships, but I am willing to learn about them."
Only by seeing how in the past we have allowed problems to control us, and forgiving ourselves, can we really change and be free to go forward in life feeling more powerful, able to create the success and happiness we want.
Forgiveness, says Caine, is not only a form of self-love, it is completely an inside job. First you have to own your mistakes. Here is how.
  • Imagine a future where you totally love yourself and have totally owned your power.
  • Reach for an understanding of why you would choose limitations in your life. We are often taught by family and life experiences that being weak, sick or helpless is the way to get attention or help. Look at your own and other peoples attempts to get acceptance, attention and love. Ask yourself, what was I taught about being lovable? About being powerful and responsible for my life?
  • Then forgive yourself for having made mistakes. Imagine how your future self would forgive you for a mistake.
  • Then you can consciously create better methods for getting the acceptance, attention, love and success that you want. 
Loved this information, hope it helps us get to our unconditional self love.
Peace. Ellie

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

10 Daily Affirmations for Self Love


Something new! Affirmations! I love affirmations.  I found these at Mind Body Green.

10 Daily Affirmations for Self Love

Affirmations are an amazing tool that are underrated in my opinion. I have benefited exceptionally from repeating affirmations even though it took me a few years to decide to write some out! I thought why not, there is nothing to lose!

When you say an affirmation you are sending a message to your unconscious mind and the universe. You are focussing your attention to what you want, rather than what you don’t want and your unconscious mind and the universe will then go towards bringing to you that which you are asking for. It may sound too good to be true, but it works as long as you practice! Your unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between your reality and your imagination. Affirmations are a great way of re-programming and focussing your mind so you can eliminate negative patterns of behavior. When you know how to work the unconscious mind, you can do so much with it. Hence why I love to use NLP with my clients when they come to me for help!

Self love is something which we should all be working towards. Without self love you will find that you will always be looking externally for a solution to the way you feel. All negative states point to a lack of self love.

So here are some affirmations to get you going, you can change and adjust them to fit your personal journey, just make sure you keep them positive and avoid mentioning anything negative. Make sure you repeat them daily, sometimes I say them 3 times in a row, once a day. You can say them in the morning or at night. Also you can write your affirmations for any particular area in your life, perhaps a weight issue, work issue or to simply manifest your desires! It’s good fun to play around with them!
  1. I love my body and all it does for me.
  2. I let go of negative self talk.
  3. My life is a place of balance and harmony.
  4. I am always doing the best I know how.
  5. I let go of people who do not have my best interests at heart.
  6. I forgive any guilt at all times.
  7. I am growing and learning each day.
  8. I send love to my fears and feel confident in my ability.
  9. I stay balanced when others behave in an unbalanced way.
  10. I appreciate my life and satisfaction comes to me with ease
Whats' your favorite self love affirmation?

Enjoy! Peace. Ellie


Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Hold that thought!

Just read a really great article from Linda Lochridge Hoenigsberg that helps you to create your own affirmation for times when your inner bully is badgering you. It's called Hold That Thought.

Here's how:

The Space In Between

  1. First, identify a negative thought you use to bully yourself.
  2. Change that thought to a more positive, truthful thought (an affirmation). For instance, let’s use the thought “Nothing ever works out for me.” Let’s change that to, “Things work out for me much of the time.
  3. Close your eyes and picture the first word of that affirmation in front of your eyes. Think of the word “Things.”
  4. Next, imagine you have moved the word “Things” over to the left. Now imagine the word “work” right in front of your eyes.
  5. Now move the word “work” over to the right. You now have both words, “Things work” sitting on either side of your head. There is a blank space in between, right in front of your eyes.
  6. Be in the empty space that is in front of your eyes. Breathe.
  7. Bring the word “work,” which is to the right, over to the left with the words “Things.” You now have “Things work” to the left and an empty space in front of your eyes.
  8. Now bring the word “out” and imagine it is right in front of your eyes. When you have a strong image of it, move it over to the right. You now have an empty space in front of your eyes again. Be in the space. Breathe.
  9. Next move the word “out” to the left. You now have “Things work out” to the left. Imagine the word “for” hanging right in front of your eyes. Repeat the above until you have imagined and moved all the words of your affirmation to the left. Sit with the empty space left in front of your eyes.

For more insights and information visit her blog.
Peace. Ellie

Monday, June 23, 2014

Reality Derailed

You can tell I love Leo Babauta! Can’t help it. He speaks to me.  Like all the times I’ve been derailed by choice or by forces beyond my control. It happens! It happens a lot.  Sometimes it’s hard to be really realistic with yourself. I needed to hear this today. 
How to Stop Your Habit Changes From Getting Derailed 
By Leo Babauta
Many times when we try to make a good change in our lives, it gets derailed early on by something out of our control.
Let’s say you start a diet, and your daughter makes some great vegan cupcakes and you want to support her efforts, and so you eat some … and this exception causes you to say, “screw it” and you eat some other unhealthy foods later in the day, and then the next day.
Or you’re trying to think positively, and so you go out of your way to be nice to someone with whom you’re not on good terms … and they snub you, causing you to go down a spiral of negative thoughts.
How do you stop the negative spiral? How do you stop the slippery slope?
By having a more flexible idea of what your habit change is.
The problem is that we often have an ideal habit change: we’re going to start this new diet and be perfect at it and all will go well and we’ll be healthy and trim and sexy.
And of course the actual path is much more bumpy than that, and so this ideal expectation is never met. Changes never go the way we think they will. Our fantasies about our new habits don’t come true. And we feel horrible about that, and get derailed.
The problem isn’t the event that derailed us, that caused our perfect habit to go bad … the problem is our ideal about how the change will go. The ideal is just a fantasy, made up in our heads. It’s not real. It’s not realistic.
What’s more realistic? Reality. Instead of holding onto the fantasy you have about the change, let that go and embrace the reality of the change. Be open to whatever happens, be curious what it’s like, and actually be present and observe the change as it happens.
Did someone not respond positively like you’d hoped they would? That’s OK, because while the ideal didn’t happen, you knew that things would turn out differently than the ideal, and so instead of being disappointed you’re curious about what happened, why, how you react, and how you can respond appropriately to this change in plans.
Letting go of the ideal, you smile, observe yourself, and think, “What now? What’s the way to respond appropriately to this new situation?”
You’re flexible. You embrace the reality. You move through the ever-changing landscape with a shifting plan, and a smile.

Hope you got something great from this little article, I did.
Peace. Ellie

Sunday, June 22, 2014

#7 of the Ten Commandments of Self Love

As I re-read the ten commandments of self love I realize that #7, which is; I shall forgive myself when I make a mistake, could be a whole lot easier to deal with if you had no regrets.

Here's an interesting article from the many at  Zenhabits.  This one is by Leo Babatua on Why We Have Regret.

I'm posting the portion of Leo's article that deals with letting go of regret here:
(but really it's so good you should read the whole thing, check the link above)

In examining why we have regret, and why it’s so hard to let go, we can see a couple of root causes that we can address:
  1. We compare past choices to an ideal.
  2. We have an ideal identity that conflicts with the idea of the bad choice.
These both revolve around ideals, which are not reality but our fantasies of how we’d like reality to go. They’re made up, and not helpful. In this case, these ideals are causing us anguish.
So the practice is to let go of the ideals, and embrace reality.
Here’s the reality of those two root causes:
  1. The choice we made in the past is done, and we can’t change it. And in fact there’s some good in the choice, if we choose to see it. Being able to make the choice at all is an amazing thing, as is being alive, and learning from our experiences, and being in the presence of other really great people, etc. And we can be satisfied with our choices and see them as “good enough” instead of always hoping for the perfect choices. Some choices will be great, some won’t be perfect, and we can embrace the entire range of choices we make.
  2. We are not actually always good, and in fact our identity can encompass a whole range: we are sometimes good, sometimes not, and sometimes somewhere in between. We make mistakes, we do good things, we care, we are selfish, we are honest, we sometimes aren’t honest. We are all of it, and so making a bad choice isn’t in conflict with that more flexible (and realistic) self-identity. It’s a part of it.
That’s all easier said than done, but when we find ourselves obsessing over past choices, we can 1) recognize that we’re falling into this pattern, 2) realize that there’s some ideal we’re comparing our choices and ourselves to, and 3) let go of these perfect ideals and embrace a wider range of reality.
This is a constant practice, but it helps us not look for perfection, not constantly review past choices, but instead find satisfaction in what we’ve done and focus in what we’re doing now.
Regrets are a part of life, whether we want them or not, whether we’re aware we’re having them or not. But by looking into the cause of regrets, and embracing the wide range of reality, we can learn to be satisfied with our choices, happier with the past and happier in the present moment.
And that is a choice you won’t regret.

Hope this helps, I know it was delicious food for thought for me.
Peace. Ellie

Thursday, June 19, 2014

10 Commandments of Self Love

I found this while looking for more ideas for self love. There's 31 days of great ideas for loving your self, see below.


10 COMMANDMENTS OF SELF-LOVE
1.   I shall lovingly accept myself as I am right now.
2.   I shall appreciate all the beauty that makes me who I am.
3.   I shall regularly give thanks for all of my blessings.
4.   I shall trust in my ability to take care of myself.
5.   I shall not criticize myself.
6.   I shall not criticize others.
7.   I shall forgive myself when I make a mistake.
8.   I shall be kind to others, without sacrificing my own needs.
9.   I shall take responsibility for my life.
10. I shall love myself to the best of my ability.

Read more here:
31 Days of Self-Love - Beliefnet  
Peace. Ellie

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Ideas to consider Self Love

Here's a few ideas about how to get to Self Love and the importance of Self Love.  A few steps to help you along the way.  Hope you enjoy this page.

The Online Meditation Center's Lecture Hall

Peace. Ellie

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Tips for writing love letters to Yourself

Here's a great guide for writing a love letter to yourself from Christipher Germer, PhD.of Mindful Self Compassion. I found this in the Resources section, there are other handouts that you can look at too.  But for now I'm posting this one.

COMPASSIONATE LETTER TO MYSELF

Everybody has something about themselves they don’t like; something that causes them to feel 
shame, insecure, or not “good enough.” Please think of an  issue you have that tends to make you 
feel bad about yourself (a mistake you made, your appearance, relationship issues, etc.) 

Now think about an imaginary friend who is unconditionally wise, loving and compassionate. 
Imagine that this friend can see all your strengths and weaknesses, including what you don’t like 
about yourself. This friend recognizes the limits of human nature, and is kind, accepting, and 
forgiving. 

Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of this imaginary friend, focusing on the perceived 
inadequacy you tend to judge yourself for. What would this friend say to you from the perspective 
of unlimited compassion? And if you think this friend would suggest possible changes you should 
make, how might these suggestions embody feelings of care, encouragement, and support? 

After writing the letter, put it down for a little while. Then come back to it and read it again, really
letting the words sink in. Feel the compassion as it pours into you, soothing and comforting you. 
Love, connection and acceptance are your birthright. To claim them you need only look within 
yourself.

If you prefer, you can also:

Write a letter as if you were talking to a dearly loved friend who was struggling with the same 
concern that you are. What words of compassion and support would you offer? Then go back and 
read the letter, applying the words to yourself.


Write to yourself from the perspective of a friend who cares deeply about you, savor the feeling, 
put the letter down, and then read it to yourself later on.

Hope you will take this to heart and write a beautiful love letter to yourself. 
Have a wonderful day and make sure to love yourself in a deep and 
unconditional way.

Peace. Ellie

Friday, June 13, 2014

Three Jewels

“When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”
Diane Von Furstenberg

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
C.G. Jung

“If you celebrate your differentness, the world will, too. It believes exactly what you tell it—through the words you use to describe yourself, the actions you take to care for yourself, and the choices you make to express yourself. Tell the world you are one-of-a-kind creation who came here to experience wonder and spread joy. Expect to be accommodated. (11)”
Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty  
Peace. Ellie

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Only Up!

I've been spending some time looking at quotes and saying on the subject of Self-Love.  I'm writing love letters to myself every morning and these are food for thought.  I like what both these people are saying and hope that I can incorporate the ideas into my life.  

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”
C. JoyBell C

I love this quote because it directly addresses a promise I made to myself a few days ago.  No longer will I turn my back on me just because some one else has a need that "seems" more important than mine. It isn't! That doesn't mean I can't help some one out; it just has to make sense for me first.

We often have a diluted sense of self; we do not see the magnitude of the greatness inside of us. As a result, most people live within the parameters of the lowest part of their life; they dwell in the basement of their capability.

When you have a small picture of yourself, it distorts the size of the problems and challenges you face. You become easily intimidated and even more easily deterred from following your desired success. You look at mistakes as final and failures as unworthiness. You see a small YOU and a BIG everything else. The vision of yourself is distorted and the efficiency of your journey is burdened.

You are a reflection of greatness; don’t lose sight of that! There have been countless challenges that you thought were bigger than you, but you’re still here. They have not defeated you, they have not stopped you, and even if you didn’t realize it, they had to bow to your innate superiority.

Keep your dream alive. Keep your relationship alive. Keep your career alive. Keep your goal alive. Live BIG! You have not been rejected, you have been redirected. Delayed, but not denied. You are greater than you can ever imagine! Let your journey be fueled and your body be nourished by your victorious past and move forward in the direction of your magnificent dreams. You are worthy; live accordingly.

- Dr. Steve Maraboli ~ From his latest book, Unapologetically You

I have lost sight of this whole idea that I am important!  This is a great reminder. 

I'm giving a heartfelt Thank You to both C. JoyBell C and Dr. Steve Maraboli! Thank you so much for being here and writing down all this worthy information.  

Peace. Ellie

Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Funny! How the Universe works

I decided a few days ago I needed to get back to unconditional self love.  I promised myself that I would write myself a love letter each morning to keep the idea alive.  Well it seems that when you chose a path the universe ultimately helps, no matter what that choice is.

This morning the very first email I got was from the Change Blog. It was so relevant to me I had to print it out for my journal.  If you are wanting more self love please read this article "4 Steps to Giving Yourself the Love You Never Got" You'll be glad you did.

Sunday, June 8, 2014

Radical Self Love, my version!

I just found Gala Darling on Jonathan Fields site...Wow! Both these people are awesome and thought provoking in such positive ways.

Now, I am moved to create some love letters to myself, because when I stop and really think about how I quit smoking and lost 80 pounds it was because I was on a vigilant self-love wave. I found giving up cigarettes and food easy because I wanted to show myself how much I really cared.  I was totally willing to do what ever it took to prove to myself that I truly loved myself more that anything else, even food and cigarettes!

So I'm creating love letters to myself to help me lose the 40 pounds that I've gained back because I'm so worth it.  I deserve to be healthy and slim. To look nice and wear the clothes I love. Those are excellent ways to feel good and confidant in my skin. 

I hope that you get motivated and get on the self love path...you deserve it!