Saturday, June 14, 2014

Tips for writing love letters to Yourself

Here's a great guide for writing a love letter to yourself from Christipher Germer, PhD.of Mindful Self Compassion. I found this in the Resources section, there are other handouts that you can look at too.  But for now I'm posting this one.

COMPASSIONATE LETTER TO MYSELF

Everybody has something about themselves they don’t like; something that causes them to feel 
shame, insecure, or not “good enough.” Please think of an  issue you have that tends to make you 
feel bad about yourself (a mistake you made, your appearance, relationship issues, etc.) 

Now think about an imaginary friend who is unconditionally wise, loving and compassionate. 
Imagine that this friend can see all your strengths and weaknesses, including what you don’t like 
about yourself. This friend recognizes the limits of human nature, and is kind, accepting, and 
forgiving. 

Write a letter to yourself from the perspective of this imaginary friend, focusing on the perceived 
inadequacy you tend to judge yourself for. What would this friend say to you from the perspective 
of unlimited compassion? And if you think this friend would suggest possible changes you should 
make, how might these suggestions embody feelings of care, encouragement, and support? 

After writing the letter, put it down for a little while. Then come back to it and read it again, really
letting the words sink in. Feel the compassion as it pours into you, soothing and comforting you. 
Love, connection and acceptance are your birthright. To claim them you need only look within 
yourself.

If you prefer, you can also:

Write a letter as if you were talking to a dearly loved friend who was struggling with the same 
concern that you are. What words of compassion and support would you offer? Then go back and 
read the letter, applying the words to yourself.


Write to yourself from the perspective of a friend who cares deeply about you, savor the feeling, 
put the letter down, and then read it to yourself later on.

Hope you will take this to heart and write a beautiful love letter to yourself. 
Have a wonderful day and make sure to love yourself in a deep and 
unconditional way.

Peace. Ellie

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