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Tiny Buddha is one of my favorite sites founded by Lori Deschene.  I also have her book entitled Tiny Buddha, Simple Wisdom for Life's Hard Questions. Lori collaborated with people all over the world through Twitter to find out how others would answer the really tough question. The website Tiny Buddha is a storehouse of great articles by lots of great writers (follow the links for more on each) on all sorts of personal issues.  The stories are real and have lots of heart and meaning. Since I am on a quest to love myself unconditionally I must post from Tiny Buddha! Thought this would be a good one for today. 21 Tips to Release Self-Neglect and Love Yourself in Action By Tess Marshall “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh The most important decision of your life, the one that will affect every other decision you make, is the commitment to love and accept yourself . It direc...

I love the saying that Joy is an inside job, but now I hear that Forgiveness is an inside job too!  This is an article from Psychology Today , a little old but timeless none the less and all the links still work.           Your Trump Card: Self-Love             Dig and honor yourself—self-love is the first step to lasting change.  By Hara Estroff Marano , published on November 01, 2002 - last reviewed on June 17, 2008  10 in Share Having a glowing vision of the future helps you tackle the core beliefs about yourself—such as doubts about your own worthiness for success—that have held you back until now. So as you peel back the curtains around your core self, you become ready to tap the source of all change and success—self-love, and forgiveness for past failures. Self-love doesn't happen by luck or the grace of God. You have to create it. T...

Something new! Affirmations! I love affirmations.   I found these at Mind Body Green. 10 Daily Affirmations for Self Love Affirmations are an amazing tool that are underrated in my opinion. I have benefited exceptionally from repeating affirmations even though it took me a few years to decide to write some out! I thought why not, there is nothing to lose! When you say an affirmation you are sending a message to your unconscious mind and the universe. You are focussing your attention to what you want, rather than what you don’t want and your unconscious mind and the universe will then go towards bringing to you that which you are asking for. It may sound too good to be true, but it works as long as you practice! Your unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between your reality and your imagination. Affirmations are a great way of re-programming and focussing your mind so you can eliminate negative patterns of behavior. When you know how to work the unc...

Just read a really great article from Linda Lochridge Hoenigsberg that helps you to create your own affirmation for times when your inner bully is badgering you. It's called Hold That Thought. Here's how: The Space In Between First, identify a negative thought you use to bully yourself. Change that thought to a more positive, truthful thought (an affirmation). For instance, let’s use the thought “Nothing ever works out for me.” Let’s change that to, “ Things work out for me much of the time. ” Close your eyes and picture the first word of that affirmation in front of your eyes. Think of the word “ Things .” Next, imagine you have moved the word “ Things ” over to the left. Now imagine the word “work” right in front of your eyes. Now move the word “work” over to the right. You now have both words, “Things work” sitting on either side of your head. There is a blank space in between, right in front of your eyes. Be in the empty space that is in front of your eyes....

You can tell I love Leo Babauta! Can’t help it. He speaks to me.   Like all the times I’ve been derailed by choice or by forces beyond my control. It happens! It happens a lot.   Sometimes it’s hard to be really realistic with yourself. I needed to hear this today.   How to Stop Your Habit Changes From Getting Derailed   By Leo Babauta Many times when we try to make a good change in our lives, it gets derailed early on by something out of our control. Let’s say you start a diet, and your daughter makes some great vegan cupcakes and you want to support her efforts, and so you eat some … and this exception causes you to say, “screw it” and you eat some other unhealthy foods later in the day, and then the next day. Or you’re trying to think positively, and so you go out of your way to be nice to someone with whom you’re not on good terms … and they snub you, causing you to go down a spiral of negative thoughts. How do you stop the negative spiral? How do ...

As I re-read the ten commandments of self love I realize that #7, which is; I shall forgive myself when I make a mistake, could be a whole lot easier to deal with if you had no regrets. Here's an interesting article from the many at  Zenhabits .  This one is by Leo Babatua on Why We Have Regret . I'm posting the portion of Leo's article that deals with letting go of regret here: (but really it's so good you should read the whole thing, check the link above) In examining why we have regret, and why it’s so hard to let go, we can see a couple of root causes that we can address: We compare past choices to an ideal. We have an ideal identity that conflicts with the idea of the bad choice. These both revolve around ideals, which are not reality but our fantasies of how we’d like reality to go. They’re made up, and not helpful. In this case, these ideals are causing us anguish. So the practice is to let go of the ideals, and embrace reality . Here’s the reali...

I found this while looking for more ideas for self love. There's 31 days of great ideas for loving your self, see below. 10 COMMANDMENTS OF SELF-LOVE 1.   I shall lovingly accept myself as I am right now. 2.   I shall appreciate all the beauty that makes me who I am. 3.   I shall regularly give thanks for all of my blessings. 4.   I shall trust in my ability to take care of myself. 5.   I shall not criticize myself. 6.   I shall not criticize others. 7.   I shall forgive myself when I make a mistake. 8.   I shall be kind to others, without sacrificing my own needs. 9.   I shall take responsibility for my life. 10. I shall love myself to the best of my ability. Read more here: 31 Days of Self-Love - Beliefnet    Peace. Ellie